Eric Jensen, Attorney At Law
Getting Started in Divorce Proceeding
|Getting Started In a Divorce,
|Obtaining competent and reliable
information, legal and financial advice is important because it can move
you in the direction of an easier, faster and better overall divorce
experience. You must be informed and educated, develop a divorce plan or
strategy, and become the manager of your own divorce case.
The necessary requirements of a successful divorce in Texas include preparation on three different levels: mental, emotional and financial. Before you start your divorce case, before you take any affirmative action, prepare yourself and think about your case, your life, your children and make a detailed, specific list of everything you want to achieve including the divorce or separation, consistent with your life goals and values, your children's best interests, property and overall financial security.The issues of the legal divorce in Texas are very specific with regard to your finances, the equitable distribution of marital property, custodial arrangements that are in your children's best interests, child support and maintenance.
1. Put your papers in order Put your divorce papers in order. Keep copies of important financial documents in a secure place. Critical financial papers, include tax returns, insurance policies and bank statements, investment accounts, salaries and benefit programs.2. Keep an expense journal Keep a journal of all expenses with receipts, especially your children's expenses
3. Establish creditTry to establish personal credit relationships (gasoline credit cards, department stores and national credit car companies such as Visa, MasterCard, etc.)
4. Open a bank account in your nameOpen a new bank account in your name at a bank where your spouse does not do business. Start putting away as much money as possible, on a regular basis. Later on, when you separate, you will need to have available funds to retain a divorce attorney and to pay for your day to day living expenses in case your spouse refuses to pay for your support. If your spouse withholds financial support, it will place a financial burden on you until an application for temporary support and maintenance can be heard and decided by the court.
5. Keep inheritances separateKeep all inheritances separate from the marital estate. Do not put an inheritance into joint names with your spouse and do not use your inheritance money to pay for family expenses or purchases or to pay down debts.
6. Have access to your carMake sure that your car is in good working condition and that it is titled jointly or preferably in your sole name.
7. Don't quit your jobDo not quit or leave your job if you are employed. It is important to maintain and secure your financial independence and earn enough to maintain assets such as your home.
8. Save receiptsWhile still married and living together with your spouse, it is advisable to save all of the receipts for major purchases and prepare an inventory of all of the property and assets acquired during the marriage. Keep a current inventory of your safe deposit box.
9. Keep your documents secureMake sure that your valuable documents are stored in a safe place and obtain a safe address for your personal mail. Consider repayment of family loans and upgrade your clothes and personal appearance.
10. Prepare your spouseTake some time to also prepare your spouse and let your spouse get used to the reality of being divorced in the near future.
EMOTIONAL BALANCEEmotional endurance and balance are necessary and powerful ingredients in the divorce
1. Get support systems in place Make sure you get strong emotional support and encouragement from trusted friends, family, spiritual advisors or psychologists to help you through the difficult, complex feelings that are associated with the divorce process.2. Postpone big decisions
Postpone life altering decisions until you are able to think clearly about relocating or changing jobs or acquiring significant property.3. Don't move out of your marital residence
Do not move out of the family residence without first discussing it with your divorce lawyer.4. Talk to your children
Reassure your children that they are not the cause of your separation or divorce and explain this in a way that is consistent with your children's ages and maturity level. It is best to be truthful and honest and give children simple and clear answers without blaming anyone.5. Take care of yourself
While you are taking care of the business aspects of your divorce, you must also take care of yourself. Have a medical and dental examination. If possible, undergo any medical treatments which are needed or anticipated in the near future if they are covered under your spouse's insurance.CONSULT AN ATTORNEY
Knowledge is power. Schedule consultations with a few different attorneys who are experienced in all aspects New York divorce and family law to explore strategies for your divorce case. Present your case to several divorce lawyers to get a variety of opinions and attitudes before you choose the one you want.1. Bring documents
It is helpful to bring financial documents and records for the divorce attorney to review during the initial consultation. Include as many of the following documents as possible: recent pay stubs tax returns for the past three to five years bank statements and credit card statements for the past three to five yearspension and any other retirement and employment benefits both you and your spouse are entitled to receive, including year end bonuses, health insurance and life insurance
copies of deeds to real property and statements of any mortgages or equity loans that are due2. Don't sign any papers
Do not sign any documents, contracts, promissory notes, deeds, mortgages, etc. if your spouse requests you to do so. The consequences of signing any documents or papers may be irreparable and highly prejudicial to your legal and financial rights upon a divorce in Texas.3. Don't move out of your marital residence
Do not move out of the marital residence without first discussing it with your divorce lawyer.OPEN COMMUNICATION
Most divorce cases are settled by the spouses between themselves, not necessarily by their divorce lawyers, so you will both benefit, in the long run, by keeping communication lines open. The way in which you and your spouse behave and communicate with each other during the most stressful moments in your marriage, will serve as a mirror image of how you will behave through the divorce process.BE AWARE OF YOUR MOTIVATIONS
If your top priority is your children, your decisions must be consistent with their best interests, not just yours.If you realize that some of the problems you are fighting about will not matter in the future, then the same issues probably do not matter in the present moment. Therefore, let go of these issues and focus on the important ones!
It is a good idea to frequently reassess your actions while going through the process of a divorce in Texas and make sure you continue to focus and move towards your ultimate goals.Choose your battles wisely!
It's time to reclaim your life!